Monday, January 03, 2011

All Of Me: January Letter From the Editor

Every year I make tons of New Year's resolutions and I rarely keep them. I'm going to do a better job keeping in touch with friends, I'm going to do 100 sit-ups every night before bed, I'm going to come out of my shell and become more outgoing... blah, blah, blah.

I spend a lot of time writing my resolutions out on pretty stationary, planning the perfect ending to the year... you know so there can be a perfect beginning to a perfect year. I've cleaned my house from top to bottom, I ate black-eyed peas and collard greens to make sure my luck was good and money on point. I've brought in the new year at church in prayer, at an overcrowded party spending way too much money on drinks. I've been in front of the television watching movies, sleeping, laughing and toasting to life with my closet girlfriends, rubbing elbows with movers and shakers, magical moments with boyfriends hoping that love would linger around a little longer... you get the point. All to ensure I started the new year fabulously. Over the years I've become an expert at creating perfect scenarios to guarantee the pendulum will stay on my side for the upcoming year.

None of these things helped me usher in drastic changes on January 1. When I reflect on times in my life where I made a change I realized that I had to change my attitude and I had to be patient. Nothing or no one changes at an instant or when the clock strikes twelve. There was nothing that was going to magically occur that would make me change into the better person I wanted to be.

So this year I decided to take a different approach. I will not give up if my goals are not met by January 15. I will enjoy the journey. I will work on becoming a better Tamara from the inside out. I do not need to wait on a magical date to change my life. I will work to improve daily. I will accept my faults and be honest about them. I will live, smile more, laugh more. I will appreciate my blessings. I will take chances. I will give all of me. 

Are you good at keeping your New Year's Resolutions? Are you taking a different approach this year?



  1. Hey Tamara, I love your blog and as one of my resolutions is to comment more, I decided to drop a comment!

    I'm usually rubbish at keeping my resolutions so I've decided to take a different approach as well this year which I'm just about to put up a post about. But in a nutshell, like you, I'm not going to be so results orientated but try and enjoy the process of achieving my goals.

  2. I think what worked for me and has to continued to work, is the fact that I live in the moment. If I say I am going to do something, I make sure I do it and follow through. I am too driven to feel like I can't accomplish anything. I don't like to call them resolutions; it seems too formal. Achievements is a better term. Gives you a sense of knowing that anything you do towards it is an accomplishment.

  3. Good for you Tamara...btw why the situps before bed and not in the morning .also i always feel sate ushering in my new year in prayer.

  4. @Folly~ Thanks for stopping by
    @Monique~ I agree
    @Mbabazi~ no particular reason on situps at night. Its just that I usually have a little more time then. I brought in 2011 in prayer... it felt awesome.


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