Monday, July 11, 2011

Outfit Post | Patience

It has been nasty hot lately so I have been living in light weight maxi dresses.  I have been opting for care-free hair as well. This is a six day old braid out that hadn't been re-braided for the past two nights so it turned into a fro. I bought a pack of synthetic braiding hair and braided two individual braids, pinned them around my head like a headband. This keeps my hair out of my face and it's chic. I've been wearing my hair in a fro a lot lately because my boyfriend thinks its super sexy. He almost had a heart attack when I pulled out the pack of braiding hair though. It's amazing me how men can love weaved out celebrities but act like they can't stand weaves on regular women. Humph.

My dress is from Forever 21. I have on flat jelly GUESS sandals and my all my jewelry came from street vendors.

Patience is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance/anger in a negative way; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. Patience is the level of endurance one's character can take before negativity. It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast.

I named this post Patience because for the past 17 months I have been tested in ways I've never been before. How so? I'm in a long distance relationship. Before February 2010 I would have never thought it a million years that I, Tamara, would be in a long distance relationship. Just wasn't my thing. I need my man near. I need to be able to see him when I want. Just wasn't in the plan. But clearly it was in His plan. So I have been spending the past 17 months traveling to Charleston to see my love. It started off with us alternating weekends. Then that became to much for me so being that my boyfriend hates to see me stressed he said he'll just come to Charlotte every weekend so I wouldn't have to travel. I felt that would have been selfish of me and would have gotten old to him quick so I said I'll come as often as I feel which turned into me going to Charleston about once a month, him coming to Charlotte about twice a month and us having a weekend a part. Its working, but I'm over it. I'm not over my relationship, just over the long distance part. 

I know that these relationships can work. I know for a fact that they do work. I know that there may be people reading this post right now who may be in the same situation but live too far apart from their mate to see them every weekend. Or my three hour drive may seem like a breeze compared to their six hour car drive or five hour flight. I think about those couple too and I pray for their relationship along with mine. 

My boyfriend and I do have a plan to be together. After much deliberation we have decided that Charlotte would be the best place for us (Thank God) but this distance thing is not getting easier, its getting harder. Its harder to say goodbye, its hard trying to shove all of our activities together in a weekend, its hard to have to settle for talking on the phone after a long day when I really need a hug.

I wanted to share this test with you all because I know that there is a testimony waiting. If we remain Patient there are blessings waiting that we can't even imagine. I often have to remind myself that this, my relationship is greater than me. Its about us, our future and our legacy. Its about God. 

No matter what may be testing you. There is an end. It will get better. Just stay faithful and have Patience. God wants nothing more but to bless us with the desires of our heart but we have to earn them. And we all know that anything worth having is worth fighting for. Don't give up! We're not!

Isaiah 40:31
But those who wait on the LORD shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint. (NKJV)


  1. Gorgeous hair! Loving the maxi dress as well. My husband and I were long distance fore a while but it all worked out in the end! Good luck with everything.

  2. i like your dress and your post touched me even better. those who wait on the lord really do reap in the end. as long a God is centre of any relationship things will get easier.. i hope you too be together forever...

  3. I love your hairstyle! I'm gonna have to try it! It is so regal and chic!

    As far as the long distance...bless you because I can't stay in a car longer than 3 hours before I start to bang my head against the dashboard:)

  4. You hair is gorgeous and love that maxi! You look perfectly polished and even!

  5. Your hair is really growing!

  6. You look beautiful. I love the hair! I understand how long distance relationships can be. My husband, and I were in one for two years. He lived in Orlando, and I in Tampa. It is only an hour away, but I didn't have a car, and wasn't driving at the time. He would come visit me mostly every weekend. We even broke up for awhile, but got back together. He finally decided to move to Tampa, and we have been together ever since, and got married two years ago. Relationships have there ups and downs, but patience is definitely a key ingredient. Everything will work out :)

  7. Everything will work out!!! I did the long distance relationship when I moved to Atlanta and left my boyfriend in Charlotte. He is down here with my now and we got married two months ago! It was hard at times, especially the traveling, but when you have a strong relationship, it with stands!!!

  8. Thanks for that testimony. I'm glad that you've been able to stay encouraged and be positive. Your hair is looking gorgeous by the way.

  9. What an inspirational post sis!! I have truly been blessed! I thank God for your relationship and as you have said it, so shall it be, you will truly testify for "he is the rewarder of those who diligently seek Him" (Hebrews 11 : 6). Many times I have thought about how hard long distance relationships are and I am truly encouraged by your post to accept it if that's what God throws my way. You are right, NO MATTER WHAT it is, there are blessings waiting if we have patience to see it through. I cannot wait for your testimony and you have reminded me to thank God for my own coming very soon too! Stay blessed sis! OH BTW you look BEAUTIFUL!

  10. whoa these photos are gorgeous! brown is your color...never thought i would say that to anyone, but my goodness this dress, your hair, your skin, it's all so perfect!

  11. p.s. my b/f lived in boston, but just moved to new york this week and i am in cali. we've been doing this long distance thing for almost 2 years now, seeing each other every 6 weeks if we are lucky, and this will prob continue until at least next spring when i graduate from grad school. it has it's moments when it's rough but two things keep me going 1) knowing that he, or should i say we, are worth it 2) keeping myself busy! i barely have time to miss him to be quite honest :-/

  12. I thank each and every one of you for the beautiful comments and words of encouragement. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

    @Reiko You're comments are always hilarious! But trust, I know the feeling.

  13. Wow love the chocolate brown dress on you! I'm your newest follower. :)


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