Outfit Post | Patience

It has been nasty hot lately so I have been living in light weight maxi dresses.  I have been opting for care-free hair as well. This is a six day old braid out that hadn't been re-braided for the past two nights so it turned into a fro. I bought a pack of synthetic braiding hair and braided two individual braids, pinned them around my head like a headband. This keeps my hair out of my face and it's chic. I've been wearing my hair in a fro a lot lately because my boyfriend thinks its super sexy. He almost had a heart attack when I pulled out the pack of braiding hair though. It's amazing me how men can love weaved out celebrities but act like they can't stand weaves on regular women. Humph.

My dress is from Forever 21. I have on flat jelly GUESS sandals and my all my jewelry came from street vendors.

Patience is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance/anger in a negative way; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. Patience is the level of endurance one's character can take before negativity. It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast. -Dictionary.com

I named this post Patience because for the past 17 months I have been tested in ways I've never been before. How so? I'm in a long distance relationship. Before February 2010 I would have never thought it a million years that I, Tamara, would be in a long distance relationship. Just wasn't my thing. I need my man near. I need to be able to see him when I want. Just wasn't in the plan. But clearly it was in His plan. So I have been spending the past 17 months traveling to Charleston to see my love. It started off with us alternating weekends. Then that became to much for me so being that my boyfriend hates to see me stressed he said he'll just come to Charlotte every weekend so I wouldn't have to travel. I felt that would have been selfish of me and would have gotten old to him quick so I said I'll come as often as I feel which turned into me going to Charleston about once a month, him coming to Charlotte about twice a month and us having a weekend a part. Its working, but I'm over it. I'm not over my relationship, just over the long distance part. 

I know that these relationships can work. I know for a fact that they do work. I know that there may be people reading this post right now who may be in the same situation but live too far apart from their mate to see them every weekend. Or my three hour drive may seem like a breeze compared to their six hour car drive or five hour flight. I think about those couple too and I pray for their relationship along with mine. 

My boyfriend and I do have a plan to be together. After much deliberation we have decided that Charlotte would be the best place for us (Thank God) but this distance thing is not getting easier, its getting harder. Its harder to say goodbye, its hard trying to shove all of our activities together in a weekend, its hard to have to settle for talking on the phone after a long day when I really need a hug.

I wanted to share this test with you all because I know that there is a testimony waiting. If we remain Patient there are blessings waiting that we can't even imagine. I often have to remind myself that this, my relationship is greater than me. Its about us, our future and our legacy. Its about God. 

No matter what may be testing you. There is an end. It will get better. Just stay faithful and have Patience. God wants nothing more but to bless us with the desires of our heart but we have to earn them. And we all know that anything worth having is worth fighting for. Don't give up! We're not!

Isaiah 40:31

But those who wait on the LORD shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint. (NKJV)